Teaching A Child To Love Who They Are

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I was reading over at Nurshable this morning and came across this fabulous post which I had to share.  It is definitely a must read!  Oh, how we  forget as adults the little eyes and ears that are watching our every move and taking in our every word.  How we forget that every negative comment we dish out to ourselves is being internalised by this clean slate who in turn starts to magnify the “negative” he or she sees.  We need to be careful; careful to ensure we build each other up and not tear each other down.  We need to be careful with the comments we dish out to children as well such as, “wow, what big feet you have” or “aren’t you tall/small for your age?” or “isn’t she a big baby?”.  They may seem harmless words as you spout them off, but it might just be enough to make someone dislike themselves.  There are parts of me that I dislike for the simple fact that people have pointed them out to me, like my big feet for instance.  I have a nephew who is really conscious about his height because he’s the smallest in his class and hates people talking about his height.  I dislike it when people stare at my baby and say, “wow, she’s a big girl!!”  By whose standards are we measuring the length of feet, or the height or weight of a child?  In God’s eyes, my feet aren’t big; they are exactly how He wanted them to be for the purpose He placed on my life, same with my nephew’s height, same with my daughter’s size, same with each of us.  We are how we are, because He has deemed it to be so, and He sees each of us as beautiful.  Don’t measure your beauty by man’s warped standards, because will all be doomed to a life of never measuring up.  Look to the one true mirror and see that we have been made in the likeness of God; beautifully hand crafted, each and every one of us.  Let’s start to magnify all the great stuff about ourselves, because it’s there, and let’s start to have a healthy, positive attitude towards ourselves and others.  Nurshable’s post also reminded me of the great Casting Crowns song, Slow Fade.  Remember, all around us are little eyes and ears who are hanging on our every word and action as an example of how they ought to be as they grow up, and little feet who will follow in our footsteps.  Let’s be sure those footsteps are leading to positive behaviours, thoughts, actions etc.

Be careful little eyes what you see
It’s the second glance that ties your hands as darkness pulls the strings
Be careful little feet where you go
For it’s the little feet behind you that are sure to follow

It’s a slow fade when you give yourself away
It’s a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray
Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid
When you give yourself away
People never crumble in a day
It’s a slow fade, it’s a slow fade

Be careful little ears what you hear
When flattery leads to compromise, the end is always near
Be careful little lips what you say
For empty words and promises lead broken hearts astray

It’s a slow fade when you give yourself away
It’s a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray
Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid
When you give yourself away
People never crumble in a day

The journey from your mind to your hands
Is shorter than you’re thinking
Be careful if you think you stand
You just might be sinking

It’s a slow fade when you give yourself away
It’s a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray
Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid
When you give yourself away
People never crumble in a day
Daddies never crumble in a day
Families never crumble in a day

Oh be careful little eyes what see
Oh be careful little eyes what you see
For the Father up above is looking down in love
Oh be careful little eyes what you see

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2 responses »

  1. Beautifully written. Very true. As a mother of 5, step mother to two this is a valuable lesson. Teach them from infantcy what they are worth, where their true value comes from, to live with passion and purpose.

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