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If We Want To Be Beautiful On The Outside, We Need to Be Beautiful On The Inside

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We are a people obsessed with our looks.  we want to look good, beautiful, handsome.  Society expects it of us in many ways.  We can often find ourselves waking up in the morning staring at the face in the mirror and wishing it was more like this or that.  We despair over wrinkles and ageing skin.  I’ve been there.

We get told that drinking x amount of water and whole foods will help our bodies from the inside and thus give us a wonderful complexion, shinier hair, brighter eyes, or whatever else we are promised.  These things are all good, and these things all do go somewhat towards keeping the insides of our bodies in good working order which is then reflected in the skin on the outside.

On its own, however, this is not enough.  You can have the healthiest of diets and use all the right products and still be an ugly person, because what’s happening in the heart in our very inmost beings is what is reflected to those around us.  “The north wind brings forth rain, and a back-biting tongue an angry countenance.” Proverbs 25:23  How we are, how we act, behave and think affects our outwards appearance either negatively or positively.

Our inward beauty is the most important tool we can have in our make up kit.  When we have calm and gentle, peaceful spirits our outward countenance is also one of peace.  when we have an inner spirit which is in turmoil, or is angry and bitter  it is reflected in our outward countenance as well.

Instead of applying lotions and potions to the skins to make ourselves more beautiful, we ought to spend more time tending to our inner hearts so that the joy and peace will overflow to our outward appearance.

Natural Face Cleaners

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My face wash which I bought in like October just came to an end.  I bought it because it was organic.  While most of the ingredients were meant to be organic some weren’t and there were still words in the ingredients list that sounded very much like chemicals.  Not good.  I was thinking of searching for a more natural face wash or getting something from Lush when this appeared in my inbox.  Four natural DIY cleansers. It had me intrigued from the start.  Sounded just like what I needed.    I read on the list included: Natural Yoghurt, Honey, Oil and the use of Grains for more of a scrub.  Well, we had a pot of natural yoghurt in the fridge(we buy one 500ml pot a week)that had just the last bits in the tub and the date for eating it was  up, so I decided I’d try it out.

I must admit it was weird rubbing yoghurt onto my face and smelling dairy in the shower, but my skin does feel quite soft!  I’ve got some honey sat in the cupboard too, so I might give that a try next!  Have you got any natural face cleansers that you use?

Beauty Right Outside My Window

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Sometimes we get so caught up in the everyday that we forget to keep our eyes open for moments of beauty.  I am desperately guilty of this.  I get bogged down in the laundry, the vacuuming, the running here and there that I forget that this life is about much more than all that.  The past few days I have really taken the time to open my eyes to the beauty in my life.  There is a magnolia tree in our backyard that I just love.  Its flowers are a thing of beauty………..until they start dropping off and covering the garden in hard to rake up petals and leaves, but I forgive it that!  So I love spring and summer when it is in bloom.  Yesterday morning when I opened the bedroom curtains and it was finely outlined in snow it drew me in again as I just stood and took in its natural beauty, each flower bud sat framed in white ready for the warmer weather to finally burst forth with new life.

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Also a little while ago I had said to my husband how I was sad there had been no robins around yet this winter.  I love the little robin bird with its lovely red chest.  Today I look out and flying all around my garden in and out are robins………..lots of robins!  There must be about 20 of them in total.  It made my heart happy just to seem them fluttering around and hear all their chirping.

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Let us keep our eyes open to the beauty that is all around us even as we go about our everyday lives.  It is there if we just choose to look for it.

Teaching A Child To Love Who They Are

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I was reading over at Nurshable this morning and came across this fabulous post which I had to share.  It is definitely a must read!  Oh, how we  forget as adults the little eyes and ears that are watching our every move and taking in our every word.  How we forget that every negative comment we dish out to ourselves is being internalised by this clean slate who in turn starts to magnify the “negative” he or she sees.  We need to be careful; careful to ensure we build each other up and not tear each other down.  We need to be careful with the comments we dish out to children as well such as, “wow, what big feet you have” or “aren’t you tall/small for your age?” or “isn’t she a big baby?”.  They may seem harmless words as you spout them off, but it might just be enough to make someone dislike themselves.  There are parts of me that I dislike for the simple fact that people have pointed them out to me, like my big feet for instance.  I have a nephew who is really conscious about his height because he’s the smallest in his class and hates people talking about his height.  I dislike it when people stare at my baby and say, “wow, she’s a big girl!!”  By whose standards are we measuring the length of feet, or the height or weight of a child?  In God’s eyes, my feet aren’t big; they are exactly how He wanted them to be for the purpose He placed on my life, same with my nephew’s height, same with my daughter’s size, same with each of us.  We are how we are, because He has deemed it to be so, and He sees each of us as beautiful.  Don’t measure your beauty by man’s warped standards, because will all be doomed to a life of never measuring up.  Look to the one true mirror and see that we have been made in the likeness of God; beautifully hand crafted, each and every one of us.  Let’s start to magnify all the great stuff about ourselves, because it’s there, and let’s start to have a healthy, positive attitude towards ourselves and others.  Nurshable’s post also reminded me of the great Casting Crowns song, Slow Fade.  Remember, all around us are little eyes and ears who are hanging on our every word and action as an example of how they ought to be as they grow up, and little feet who will follow in our footsteps.  Let’s be sure those footsteps are leading to positive behaviours, thoughts, actions etc.

Be careful little eyes what you see
It’s the second glance that ties your hands as darkness pulls the strings
Be careful little feet where you go
For it’s the little feet behind you that are sure to follow

It’s a slow fade when you give yourself away
It’s a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray
Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid
When you give yourself away
People never crumble in a day
It’s a slow fade, it’s a slow fade

Be careful little ears what you hear
When flattery leads to compromise, the end is always near
Be careful little lips what you say
For empty words and promises lead broken hearts astray

It’s a slow fade when you give yourself away
It’s a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray
Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid
When you give yourself away
People never crumble in a day

The journey from your mind to your hands
Is shorter than you’re thinking
Be careful if you think you stand
You just might be sinking

It’s a slow fade when you give yourself away
It’s a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray
Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid
When you give yourself away
People never crumble in a day
Daddies never crumble in a day
Families never crumble in a day

Oh be careful little eyes what see
Oh be careful little eyes what you see
For the Father up above is looking down in love
Oh be careful little eyes what you see

Learning to Love Self

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So, I’m the kinda girl who hates leaving the house without make up on her face.  I’m the kinda girl who made sure her toe nails were painted ready for labour and that on the actual day wanted to do her face and her hair so she’d look half decent in the photos.  I’m the kinda girlw ho asks people to keep my head out of photos if it happens to be a day when I’ve not bothered putting make up on as I’m not going out.  I don’t want people seeing the uneven skin tone that I see or the scars on my face from when I was troubled with acne.  I want people to see someone beautiful.  Since having my baby girl, I’ve had a lot of time to think about lessons I’d like her to learn in life, and God really spoke to me about this area of my life and how heavily I depend on makeup for people’s approval.  This isn’t a trait I want to pass on to my daughter.  I don’t want her to feel that beauty is only superficial and that natural God given beauty isn’t enough so it must be covered up.  These are thoughts I want her to live by:

1 Peter 3:3-4- Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.

 

“For Attractive lips, speak words of kindness.  For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.  For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.  For beautiful hair, let a child run their fingers through it once a day.  For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone.  People, more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed. Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you will find one at the end of each of your arms.  As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself and the other for helping others.”  ―    Sam Levenson

I want my daughter to spend her time not chasing after superficial beauty, but cultivating a beautiful character, one of grace and gentleness, compassion and understanding.  You can have all the outward beauty in the world, but if there’s nothing to match it on the inside, it doesn’t count for a lot, and it won’t get you far in life unless you enjoy the superficial.

It’s taken many years for me to get to this point where I feel free from the prison of make up if you will.  I guess God started this change in me when a hair cut went wrong just before my daughter’s birth, and I felt stripped of something I had relied on to make me pretty, and something prompted me for the last few weeks to just try going with no make up.  My skin felt so much lighter instead of feeling weighed down and no longer did I have the feeling like it was melting underneath the foundation in hot weather.  I didn’t have to worry about it getting on my clothes etc etc.  Now, I’m not saying never wear make up or that I won’t ever wear it, I just want to teach my little girl that it’s her inner soul that will make her beautiful all the way to the outside, and it’s far better to eat healthily to keep the outer skin looking its best than trying to cover it up.