I’ve had a super long break from writing anything, and that is mainly because the past few months have been pretty stressful and I’ve not felt like writing at all. My energy was taken up by just getting out of bed in a morning to face another day. Things have improved slightly, so I feel like writing a bit again. Life has been interesting and the results of the last few months are that we are getting our house ready for sale so we can move. We thought we had found the right house for us which was a new build and would mean it would be easier for us and we would be able to make use of the new Help To Buy scheme in the UK, but it hasn’t worked out. It was in the same area as we are now, so I am not sure whether it was the house that was wrong or the location that was wrong. There are so many reasons we have to move that are affecting my mental health and well-being as well as the more practical/financial reasons. Here’s a little list:
-The enormous amount of work needing to be done here and the huge amounts of cash the house is swallowing up with problem after problem. We bought the house as a project, and when it was just the two of us it was fine as we had time to work on it. Now, with Miss E, it is just not fair to spend all that free time on doing up a house that we always intended on selling on anyway, and we have lost the heart and vision of it with the fact it’s just draining our cash.
-The long commute Mr P has to and from work. This is a major factor (which is probably why the other house just didn’t work; it may have been a case of right house, wrong location). As it stands Mr P doesn’t get to see very much of Miss E at all, and she misses and needs daddy input into her life. It would be nice to have more family time.
-To clear debts. This house just increases our debts further with all the work and issues we have had to sort that keep mounting up. We can longer afford to do this, so we need a few years in somewhere that needs minimal work to breathe and just enjoy living again.
-Problems with rats…this is still an ongoing issue (although for now they have left us in peace) and the stress of the last 3 months of rat toture is just too much especially with a little one to think of.
-Issues with neighbours; this is a big one for me as all summer I am trapped in the house due to the obnoxious, bullying behaviour of our neighbours’ 4 children while they are on break. Yes, children can really cause that much emotional and mental stress to an adult to the point where after 4 years they can’t take anymore of it! It is unfair to Miss E not to be able to use her garden when she pleases (and she loves her garden), and I can never let her out if they are in for fear of what they might say to her.
So that’s a brief little overview of the last few months and what has been keeping me busy and away from here. Now, I am just kept busy with things like stripping wallpaper so we can finish the house up and get some buyers in to look around!